For the previous 10 years I’ve been going nonstop to construct my mission and it’s come to the purpose that I would like to attract traces and set boundaries. I need to be an artist for a really very very long time. I’ve been in too many nonconsensual bodily and social interactions and I simply want to put it out and remind you, ladies don’t owe you shit. I selected this profession path as a result of I like music and artwork and honoring my interior little one, I don’t settle for harassment of any form as a result of I selected this path, nor do I deserve it.
Once I’m on stage, after I’m performing, after I’m in drag, after I’m at a piece occasion, after I’m doing press…I’m at work. Every other circumstance,I’m not in work mode. I’m clocked out. I don’t agree with the notion that I owe a mutual change of vitality, time, or consideration to individuals I have no idea, don’t belief, or who creep me out—simply because they’re expressing admiration.
Ladies don’t owe you a motive why they do not need to be touched or talked to. This has nothing to do with the gratitude and love I really feel for my neighborhood, for the individuals who respect my boundaries, and for the love I really feel from each one that lifts me up and has caught with me to assist the mission get to the place it’s now.
I’m particularly speaking about predatory habits (disguised as “superfan” habits) that has turn out to be normalized due to the way in which ladies who’re well-known have been handled up to now. Please don’t assume vou know rather a lot about somebody’s life, persona, and limits since you are conversant in them or their work on-line.
In the event you’re nonetheless asking, “Effectively, when you didn’t need this to occur, then why did you select a profession the place you knew you wouldn’t be snug with the end result of success?”—perceive this: | embrace the success of the mission, the love I really feel, and the gratitude I’ve. What I don’t settle for are creepy individuals, being touched, and being adopted.
This example is just like the concept if a girl wears a brief skirt and will get harassed or catcalled, she shouldn’t have worn the quick skirt within the first place. It’s not the lady’s obligation to suck it up and take it; it’s the harasser’s obligation to be a good particular person, go away her alone, and respect that she will be able to put on no matter she desires and nonetheless deserve peace on this world.
I need to love my life, be outdoors, giggle with my associates, go to the movie show, really feel protected, and do all of the issues each single particular person deserves to do. Please cease touching me. Please cease being bizarre to my household and associates. Please cease assuming issues about me. There’s all the time extra to the story. l am scared and drained. And please—do not name me Kayleigh. I really feel extra love than I ever have in my life. I really feel essentially the most unsafe I’ve ever felt in my life.
There is part of myself that I save only for my mission and all of you. There is part of myself that’s only for me, and I don’t need that taken away from me. Thanks for studying this. I admire your understanding and assist.